Divorce

[StuartL]

Anybody onhere been through it recently and got any good advice that they can pass on ??

Cheers

[franksav63]

Anybody onhere been through it recently and got any good advice that they can pass on ??

Cheers

Yes, don't get married.

[StuartL]

Anybody onhere been through it recently and got any good advice that they can pass on ??

Cheers

Yes, don't get married.

Where were you 16 years ago Frank when I needed you

[franksav63]

Anybody onhere been through it recently and got any good advice that they can pass on ??

Cheers

Yes, don't get married.

Where were you 16 years ago Frank when I needed you

Sorry Stuart, but I've finally learnt that the majority of relationships are doomed for failure...

[Goose]

Anybody onhere been through it recently and got any good advice that they can pass on ??

Cheers

Don't use Ray Parlours lawyer.

[arseofacrow]

Anybody onhere been through it recently and got any good advice that they can pass on ??

Cheers

Don't use Ray Parlours lawyer.

[arseofacrow]

Anybody onhere been through it recently and got any good advice that they can pass on ??

Cheers

Yes, don't get married.

Where were you 16 years ago Frank when I needed you

Arsene?

[franksav63]

Anybody onhere been through it recently and got any good advice that they can pass on ??

Cheers

Yes, don't get married.

Where were you 16 years ago Frank when I needed you

Arsene?

No, I'm not that much of a *word censored*.

[HashKads]

Anybody onhere been through it recently and got any good advice that they can pass on ??

Cheers

Don't use Ray Parlours lawyer.

Quality.

[HashKads]

Anybody onhere been through it recently and got any good advice that they can pass on ??

Cheers

Yes, don't get married.

Where were you 16 years ago Frank when I needed you

Sorry Stuart, but I've finally learnt that the majority of relationships are doomed for failure...

How inspiring

[franksav63]

Anybody onhere been through it recently and got any good advice that they can pass on ??

Cheers

Yes, don't get married.

Where were you 16 years ago Frank when I needed you

Sorry Stuart, but I've finally learnt that the majority of relationships are doomed for failure...

How inspiring

Well, they are, I'm just spreading my experience around... I'm here all day.

[olgitgooner]

Anybody onhere been through it recently and got any good advice that they can pass on ??

Cheers

I haven't had one recently. But I have four ex mrs olgits ( I only did the ceremony and paperwork with the first one).

The thing is that divorce/separation is a nasty experience for both parties. Try to talk through the basic arrangements with your ex before the solicitors get involved. Easier said than done. Obviously. As soon as the legal people get involved it can get really nasty. Claims, counterclaims and all sorts of arguments ensue. Which is a nice little earner for the legals.

Financial arrangements are a total pain in the arse. If you can't agree this part of the deal (before it gets to court) then you can make all sorts of claims about your finances and those of your ex. These are never properly examined. You both can claim all sorts of ridiculous things (this is referred to as "privileged" statement). You can lie through your back teeth without the risk of prosecution for perjury. So can your ex. The judge takes a "view" based on what he/she has heard. A stupid state of affairs

THE most important thing is the well being of any children. If you have any of these precious little things then insist on JOINT CUSTODY. This is hugely important. If she gets SOLE CUSTODY she can restrict access to your children. And take them abroad without prior permission. Not a major worry normally. But it could be if she fell in in love with a Turkish waiter on holiday, for example.

One good thing is that the law now states that legal people are bound by law to ask if there is any chance of a reconciliation before they proceed to charge you money. Good stuff. Have a think about it. Many people split up and regret it the rest of their lives. Maybe you could start afresh?

I'm no legal eagle. But feel free to pm me.

Good luck.

[Red Snapper]

That bit about the first mrs Olgit needs further explanation!

You're a glutton for punishment or maybe it's me whose got it wrong, married to mrs Red Snapper since '75.

[QuartzGooner]

Sad to say it but from what I have seen, in many cases even the break ups where both people agree to be civil about it turn nasty after a month or so.

Be prepared for that.

In practical terms, if there are any of your possessions that you really treasure, get them out of the house ASAP. Store them at a friend's.
Because she may try to get hold of them just to spite you.

Sorry to hear about this Stuart.
But on the plus side after the dust settles there are many hot women in London waiting to be snapped up.
Unless that is, you have run off with Hashkads....

[DB10GOONER]

I have 2 mates that went through it. One seemed to get through it in a civilised manner, the other not so much... One thing they both confirmed for me is that all lawyers are the rancid fucking scum of the earth. They make bankers look like saints, and as we all know bankers are the putrifying arse-raped filth of the earth.

I knew this, but it was good to have it confirmed in such a fashion.

Anyway their advice to everyone since is to get as much done and agreed between you before the lawyers get involved.

As a very happily married man, I'm genuinely sorry to hear it went pear-shaped for you mate.