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My decree Nisi has come through decree absolute to follow (about 4 weeks time now)
So far nothing financial has been sorted although I have been paying maintenance as per the csa website amount ever since I left the property and also carried on paying half the mortgage - as property in joint names.
Mediation has been mentioned, which I have no problem with, but am I right in thinking that anything agreed to via mediation is not binding, so she could still deny me access, chrsitmas day visits etc ?
So can the divorce be "absolute" without the finances / custody being settled ?
My decree Nisi has come through decree absolute to follow (about 4 weeks time now)
So far nothing financial has been sorted although I have been paying maintenance as per the csa website amount ever since I left the property and also carried on paying half the mortgage - as property in joint names.
Mediation has been mentioned, which I have no problem with, but am I right in thinking that anything agreed to via mediation is not binding, so she could still deny me access, chrsitmas day visits etc ?
So can the divorce be "absolute" without the finances / custody being settled ?
Cheers guys
No answers to your questions from me Stuart. My divorce was a long time ago. I can't remember. And the law has probably changed since then.
I just want to say that divorce is not the worst thing in the world as far as your child is concerned. You will still be Dad. And that will carry on.
My two daughters are now in their thirties. They are not just daughters. They are my closest friends. Despite a nasty divorce. And despite their mother poisoning them against me in their early years.
My decree Nisi has come through decree absolute to follow (about 4 weeks time now)
So far nothing financial has been sorted although I have been paying maintenance as per the csa website amount ever since I left the property and also carried on paying half the mortgage - as property in joint names.
Mediation has been mentioned, which I have no problem with, but am I right in thinking that anything agreed to via mediation is not binding, so she could still deny me access, chrsitmas day visits etc ?
So can the divorce be "absolute" without the finances / custody being settled ?
Cheers guys
No answers to your questions from me Stuart. My divorce was a long time ago. I can't remember. And the law has probably changed since then.
I just want to say that divorce is not the worst thing in the world as far as your child is concerned. You will still be Dad. And that will carry on.
My two daughters are now in their thirties. They are not just daughters. They are my closest friends. Despite a nasty divorce. And despite their mother poisoning them against me in their early years.
Being a parent is a great privilege. Best wishes.
funnily enough, that is a promise that she has made to me - that she would poison the kids against me, lovely woman, can't think how I am so happy to be out of the relationship
Been through what you are experiencing years ago.If your ex isn't reasonable with access to your kids it will come back to haunt her later.Children are not stupid they get older they make up their own minds & when they become adults they realise that everything in the world is not as straightforward as it seems.
Years ago it would be easier for a woman to try & deny a reasonable amount of access even if you can't see them as much as you like as they get older they will have their own phones social media etc.
Good luck with everything .On the financial side remember you have a life as well & think also of your own future some women seem to want half & then later half of your half.On this side i fought my corner it was hard at first but looking back all those years ago i was glad i did!
decree absolute to follow (about 4 weeks time now)
